You go away on a great holiday…maybe even you follow Innerwealth and my teachings and never ever have holidays… but either way, you feel great when you get away from it all, into nature and relax.
“life is one holiday and if you live life waiting for a break, you really need to step back and question the lifestyle you’re living”Chris Walker
Why are people different in nature? The answer is “it’s not what you think, it’s how you think” and this is exactly the point. Focussing on your thoughts, if your thinking process is a mess, will only lead to more emotion, more stress and more pain. Anxiety, stress, anger and frustration don’t come from what you think, they come from how.
You’ll hear professional speakers telling you what to think… “have a big why” or “be mindful” or “accept diversity” but these speakers are selling “coolaide” they are selling poison. Focussing you more on what you think leads to depression, frustrration, mental illness and anger, the very thing they claim to be up in arms about and trying to solve. Not true. They are making a living (good for them) by telling you what you want to hear. Reinforcing what you think, rather than how.
Why not? Why not focus on how you think?
Well, simple answer. How you think is the foundation of your ego, identity, persona, and having it challenged is really uncomfortable. I’ve met people who’ve attempted suicide rather than change how they think. One lady smashed me in the face with her fist in front of 50 people because I challenged how she thought.
Your values are important to you. How you think about your highest value is going to be different to how you think about your lowest. If you find yourself following a guru on “what to think” you’ll think one thought about all values. This makes you a sleepless tiger in life. Unhealthy.
To understand the difference between how and what you think take this example: Coronavirus is dangerous… this is what you think and there’s ample evidence to support that. “The government should have acted sooner” there’s another What you think. You might even start pub fight if someone argued differently especially if you feel nervous about your family contracting the illness. So this is what you think
I’m interested in how you think…
- There’s two sides to everything… balance … can you see two sides to coronavirus? I doubt it. Because we don’t think, we just think that we think by searching for the most one sided position. That’s the difference between being a leader and a follower.
- Nothing can be missing… Abundance… a law of thermodynamics but really a universal principle… coronavirus is killing people… so what was killing them already and before and after the virus. Has something really changed or just changed form. That’s the peace of mind of a lover.
- Evolution takes place at the border of chaos and order. Evolution … “there is no good to come out of the coronavirus” this may be what you think, but, how does “how you think” influence this? Well deep in your core there’s a set of meme’s that generate an automatic response to life, and one of them could be “we get punished for ill doing” or “the Chinese are to blame” or “we’re all gunna die” – this meme generates a thought and that’s the root of your life. But what if that root meme is wrong? it will have a profound effect on what you think even about the neighbour using a leaf blower every Saturday afternoon. “stress” – That meme can be changed easily, and then what you think will be different based on how you think. And how you think can be mass consciousness (ignorance) or enlightened (nature). That’s the difference between an innovator and a consumer.
- Appreciation grows things… what you appreciate grows. So wanting to change yourself or others or the world is bound to come from a lack of apprciation for what is, and therefore in the process of thinking something could or should be better you actually depreciate the value of what you’ve got. Again, it’s not what you think, it’s how… can you see the beauty in what already is before you go thinking, “I better change it.” The appreciative human is always the healthy one.
If you’d love to learn these five (four described above) laws of nature, I deliver this awareness between what and how you think in coaching.