The Frustra Busta came to me while sitting in the Himalayas 20 years ago with a group of people who were all challenged by the 10 day journey we were on. They were all struggling at different points of the cycle and it dawned on me that the steps they were going through to deal with the ups and downs of a Himalayan walk, were identical to the process we go through dealing with life frusta’s.
On that trip there were nine hills to climb, each higher and steeper than the next. On each hill we needed to acclimatise, to reach a personal peak, recognise the need to stop, recover and then get back on the trail for the next day.
Everyone experiences frustra. Nobody is immune. The only question is how long you’re going to take to evolve through them. My process doesn’t hurt and takes a few hours. The first time you do a Frustra Busta you might need a guide but then it’ll feel totally natural.
The process repeats itself in all walks of life, and as I mentioned earlier, never so transparently as when we’re trekking in the Himalayas. Each day we trek a little higher, acclimatise a little more then rest, recover, recuperate and then go to the next frustra. In other words we rise to our level of frustration (can’t go any higher with the same physiology) – adapt, and then get back on track. Lets apply it to work and life.
The Walka Frustra Busta Three Step Process
The Adaptation Process
- Discard: Memories of yesterday can cloud the possibilities of today. A person with sore legs from yesterday’s trek needs to discard that memory to avoid it wearing them down in the new day. Until we clear the past of any sense of failure, doubt, uncertainty, poverty or ingratitude the future is doomed to be much harder than it needs to be.
- Cellular: Memories are stored in the mind and body. Failure, pain, anger, disappointment, frustration, insecurity, fear and guilt are stored physically in your body as well as mentally. On the trek it was necessary to clear the body of its memory of the day gone by and create in its place a good feeling with a spectacular meal, meditation and a warm open fire to create a new memory and replace emotions from the day gone by.
- Environment: Spatial factors influence a person’s mind and body. Each day we created an awareness of new environments to lift mindsets and recognise that we were in a new day, by observing different trees, animals, skyline, mountains, altitude. Changing our environment is a key element in getting back on track when doubt overwhelms us and we lose a sense of newness.
- Mind: With doubt, our values become a roulette wheel and whatever gives us a sense of satisfaction becomes our highest priority. A great example of this on trek is a blister on the foot which becomes the person’s primary focus and motivation rather than their highest value of trekking to the highest trekking peak in the world. My responsibility was to intrude on their thought process until they re-consolidate their vision and eliminate doubt.
- Vision: The human spirit is a vision. The most impulsive level of vision is the shortest timeframe ahead. During the trek, people began to falter as they focused on the future as an escape plan for the present which was filled with physical discomfort. I encouraged people to remember that every step was getting them one step closer to the top. This is called “linking”.
- Self talk: Our internal chatter results in our actions and reactions to our circumstances. At the bottom of a hill everyone had a conversation with themselves about the day ahead. Some expressed this to others to validate their thoughts and I heard “I don’t think I’m going to make it” or “I’m so looking forward to today”. I encouraged a more honest dialogue internally; to speak to themselves as a friend, with encouragement, with love and most importantly, without doubt.
So you can see that it’s a continuous loop. Each day on a trek in Nepal we go up a hill and down the other side. Metaphorically each hill, whether it’s a physical, business or a relationship experience, represents an opportunity to go through the whole back on track process and refresh ourselves.